I’ll start with a question. Have you ever been truly in love?
Can you respond with an answer that opens the memory gates? Like a flood pouring over your conscience, as a highlight real filled with emotions causes your heart to skip a beat.
Raw and deep love for another person causes the heart to flicker, as if a spark has ignited your whole being. People through the word 'love' around as if it is insignificant, as if it has no value anymore. Honestly, I wonder how many people can say they understand love! And to understand love, one first has to have lost in love, in order to know love exists. Love doesn’t have to be a romantic love, love can be found in all sorts of facets of life. Love can find you in the most unexpected of circumstances, it hits ever so gently like a tap on the shoulder when you let your heart show its vulnerability. You see people hanging onto the thought that love is a night in shining armour or that love is someone who provides sexual actions that soothe our quick fix for attention.
In today’s world, we find it hard to engage with a romantic love, more so we find ourselves in a romantic lust more often. I once heard on the radio that 'the younger generation are too quick to get into bed' (what ever happened 1st & 2nd base?) it's like we're straight into 3rd base and each others pants without any real interaction. Is this because lust is so accessible? I mean all you really have to do is swipe right and come up with a catchy punch line, right? And you're in!
I wonder if this has become normality as we are or have been accustomed to what we see on the Hollywood screen or reality tv? Are we so incapable of finding a love, that people are searching for it on reality tv shows, where a bunch of randoms are chosen based on what will produced a quick laugh as home viewers cringe at social interactions?
Maybe it’s the fear of rejection that causes us to build up these 10 story walls, with a lock that only we can break into. Is this why people today are more likely to seek a sexual partner over an emotional connection? Being a afraid to loose love makes a person hold back, but not being afraid to loose love opens up opportunities for a deeper love to be found. Trust me when I say this, you would rather loose in love, as opposed to having never loved at all.
Well maybe we don't know what love is? Do we actually know how to react when love comes knocking on our front door at 2 o'clock in the early hours of a morning. Well what does it mean to be in love? Being in love makes your heart glow, glow for miles across country sides as each day you fall deeper with each laugh, smile and glance. Being in love feels like you're dancing with the angle of destiny, high above the universe where know one else can see, a secret world you call your own. But, love changes who you are and requires work. A lot of young people today don’t understand that a relationship requires a lot of hard work, if it didn’t everyone would have a partner. You can’t have a flower, not water it and expect it to grow and flourish. You can't have a dog, not nurture or feed the animal and expect it to show enormous amounts of love and companionship.
Could it be that we are afraid to fall.. yes fall into love, because isn’t love suicide? You meet with cupid and invisibly sign the love contract, then set sail to begin your journey of falling in love. Although, when you accept the contract, if you listen to the literature carefully, you're falling, not rising, but falling. Falling deep into the the well of love, that we are often blind sided, simply by the fact that we are so fixated on this person who brings a whirl wind of "new" into our lives.
You go into the well as you are now, but a different person comes out, you never come out of it the same. By giving a piece of your heart to someone, you’ve created a gap that relies on someone else to make your heart whole. So when we loose those we love, our heart is never going to heal the same, because that piece was delicately shaped to comply and support that special love. Something else has to come and essentially fill the gap, like a teddy bear who has been stitched back up my grandma for the 100th time, it still looks like teddy but it’s not the original bear you were given.
Maybe its a quick fix that were chasing to fill these voids in our chest from past experiences that we have all but forgotten or erased from memory. Either way, I hope your chase a love that is raw, natural and pure. A love that keeps the spark alight within your heart, because an emotional connection with another is something to fiercely fight for.
