The subtle beauty in moving on,
I'll start by saying this, moving on doesn’t happen over night, it never has, it isn't going to now and probably won't ever heal that quickly. Believe me, many of us have caught ourselves hoping and praying that by some magical force we can instantly get over someone. When in reality emotional wounds need the same care as if you're to break a leg. The healing process starts as soon as the XRAY confirms you've broken a bone. The question is why do we expect our minds to recover immediately, when we know that as other parts of our body break, we accept that they will take months to recover?
Moving on doesn’t just happen overnight, its a battle between you and your mind, and you have to summon the courage to fight, fight for yourself, with all your heart.
Moving on means that you’ll take the good days with the bad, you will learn to accept the past and to live without the person that you love (or still love) you’re taking steps towards a life that doesn’t feature that person, who together you shared so many precious moments and vulnerabilities with. Moving on means you realize that every end (whether it be heart breaking or not) brings a new beginning. Moving on means that you’re accepting that you’re going to make new memories without that person standing beside you, as they promised they always would.
Moving on means the sun will shine ever so bright again. Believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can't find hope, believe, because the universe responds to the calling of the human spirit. As days become weeks and weeks become months, without ever really noticing you’ll find yourself one day going about your business and something will trigger your memory, and you’ll think I haven’t thought about them in a while. These are the small victories.
Moving on means you will laugh, laugh until your eyes start to water, laugh so much that your'e gasping for air. Laughter is the single most beneficial weapon you have as you pass through the hurricane of raw emotions. It’s okay to let emotions pour back into our minds as a place or thing triggers a short film of memories. You’ll accept that you haven’t thought about them until that very moment, and you'll be in control.
Moving on means that you'll re-ignite the fire within your heart. Oh how important it is to make new memories, new memories in those places you feel uncomfortable going back to as they hold years of emotional memories with that person you thought forever meant. You’ll realize that you’ve been able to stop by those cafes, hangouts and secret spots and create new memories for yourself. You simply can’t let the past hinder your happiness. As you do this you will development a mental toughness that will only benefit your mind as you heal, as if someday you’ll bump into them again and you’ll be able to handle your mind as it hits the code red button and flash backs ignite like photographers to a new media story.
Moving on means that you can now zoom out and see this bigger picture. You can now see that, that particular chapter in the book of you, with that person (who meant so much at the time) was meant to end, one way or another, sooner or later. Being able to accept that the chapter happened and you acknowledge that you’re who you are because of those moments you shared together. You will have learnt something whether it be positive or negative, it will have helped you to connect with yourself on a deeper emotional level. You’ll be able to understand that forever, as someone swore it would be, doesn’t always mean forever. possibly simple forever int that moment.
Moving on means making new memories with new people. You’ll be able to let go of that love you had an ever so tight grasp on, as you let go of emotional pain. Show your vulnerable side, sing, laugh and dance until you're completely out of your comfort zone, free to explore new experiences and create those ever so precious memories, you'll thank yourself later. We can get comfortable letting our vulberabilites show to those we love, yet we resist letting our own self see the beauty in our own vulnerability. As you allow yourself to accept your mind and the way you think you'll allow yourself to sink a little deeper and think a little clearer. Ultimately, making the person you love the most yourself.
Finally, if you know someone who's struggling, show compassion, because its going to take them a lot longer to get over a heartbreak than you think they should. If your struggling yourself, know this, you have to be prepared to fight as it's not easy. Know you have weapons in the form of your mind, freinds, laughter, family as the universe responds to those who's seek its help.
